Our Hotwives

Seekingmore12 wrote: ↑

Thu Apr 10, 2025 5:12 am

First thank you for you well wishes….reality is I am trying to process this loss as I just returned from my annual boys trip, it’s hitting home hard now as my reality has been turned around and I simply can’t go backwards.

Very early on in our relationship, I had said to lfa that this would end one day and we would never know when, how or why, who knew it turned out to be now.

This all been said, I absolutely have zero ill will for both Lfa and adventurer, I always felt welcomed and yes loved. I am very grateful that we have shared many amazing memories that will forever be with me.

These two are the poster child of what an amazing partnership is and will be forever humbled that they touched my life…..yes I am old and laughed about a old show called “ touched by a angel “, while cheesy it rings so true.

So for now, I will be focusing on my new reality and life going forward with a very special place being reserved for these two amazing people.

G

Fox wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 04, 2025 5:39 pm

Really gonna miss your updates. You’re one of the ones i continue to check in on daily even after our adventure ended a year and a half ago. Kind of ironic. I’ve mentioned several times the similarities between you and Shirley. Oddly, she’s the one that ended it and I wish it could continue. In your case Adventurer decided to end it. Good luck to all 3 of you. Shirley has maintained that if she could find a guy like G that would only be with her and her with him, she would return to being a hotwife. We just haven’t been able to find it. You all were very lucky to have found each other.

venus-can99 wrote: ↑

Sat Apr 05, 2025 8:53 pm

Thanks lfa for posting about the recent meeting with G which ended up being the last hurrah. It has been a delight to read all of your updates with occasional colour commentary from A and G. Hope all 3 of you find the strength to move on to the next phase and continue to remain friends.

Late wrote: ↑

Sun Apr 06, 2025 5:53 am

LFA:
Thanks for responding. Your response forced me to think a little bit harder about why I'm here, on this site, and why I have been following your story so intently.
Let me explain. I'm unfortunately a wannabe. Of all the different versions of the lifestyle on this site, the one that appeals to me the most is what I think of as the true "hotwife" lifestyle. By that, I mean a wife that is sexually active outside the marriage with the husband's full support. In my mind, whether the husband participates or wanders himself is irrelevant to the hotwife theme. She being mentally and physically sexually active outside the marriage and him being fully supportive of that is the key. Your story conveyed that you and A had that relationship. I have found a few other couples on here that have been living a similar lifestyle and I am enjoying them as well.
What your response has forced me to realize, is that though their stories are similar, they are also different. Specifically; although you have had several different participants, for the most part you had G and he was your main "focus". The other couples I have been following have different relationships they are pursuing. One hotwife has several "midterm" relationships going at once. As she drops one she tends to find another to keep her stable "stocked". Again, her husband is fully aware and supportive of her activity and participates at different levels with different participants. Another hotwife has had one participant for a very long time. Another hotwife has had a variety of participants, pretty much one at a time.

I am enjoying following all of these stories for the same reason. The wife is mentally and physically sexually active, and the husband is fully aware and fully supportive. I think what I am liking about your situation is that as soon as A stopped being fully supportive you stopped the life style. Hopefully it is only a pause because A and you are able to work through some stuff, but for now it has stopped.

Of course, the other reason I have been following your and the other stories is I have been living the hotwife lifestyle vicariously. And in all of the examples, that lifestyle is awesome. So, having said all of that, I want to apologize for having slighted the impact the change has had on G. By the way, it has been very enjoyable having been able to follow the story from his perspective as well.

As I have been writing this, a question has come to mind. I am going to ask it hoping not to offend you but hopefully as a way of trying to understand what has changed. At first you had a variety of participants, but at the end it was only G. Did A enjoy the variety of participants, but became less supportive when it became only one other? I ask that only in trying to understand better the husband's perspective on the lifestyle, which I have to admit is kind of weird. She gets all the fun, and his enjoyment is her getting all the fun.

Anyway, I thank you for sharing your experience with us, and for letting us participate in this small way. May you, A, and G live long and prosper.

Late

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Thu Apr 10, 2025 9:11 am

First off I give you great credit for your grateful comments towards LFA and Adventurer. You got to have an experience that very, very few get to have. Your pain in the loss is palpable. In spite of knowing that this day was an inevitability, it would be difficult for you to prepare for. You clearly were giving LFA the experience she wanted. It's my opinion that LFA ultimately was not giving Adventurer the experience he wanted (whatever that may be). As far as I can tell from posts you were never disrespectful intentionally or unintentionally. You had no way of knowing how LFA and Adventurer were processing your part in this.

Since this isn't the first time they put the brakes on, if LFA reaches out to you again and says they're "back in the game", will you jump at the chance or will you be a little reluctant. I gather from the tone of your post that you are feeling some pain from this course of events. Will those emotions you feel give you any reluctance?

Once again, I have great respect for you and your gratitude towards LFA and Adventurer. Maybe you were ultimately TOO much of a perfect fit.

Seekingmore12 wrote: ↑

Thu Apr 10, 2025 5:12 am

First thank you for you well wishes….reality is I am trying to process this loss as I just returned from my annual boys trip, it’s hitting home hard now as my reality has been turned around and I simply can’t go backwards.

Very early on in our relationship, I had said to lfa that this would end one day and we would never know when, how or why, who knew it turned out to be now.

This all been said, I absolutely have zero ill will for both Lfa and adventurer, I always felt welcomed and yes loved. I am very grateful that we have shared many amazing memories that will forever be with me.

These two are the poster child of what an amazing partnership is and will be forever humbled that they touched my life…..yes I am old and laughed about a old show called “ touched by a angel “, while cheesy it rings so true.

So for now, I will be focusing on my new reality and life going forward with a very special place being reserved for these two amazing people.

G

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 11, 2025 5:27 am

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Thu Apr 10, 2025 9:11 am

First off I give you great credit for your grateful comments towards LFA and Adventurer. You got to have an experience that very, very few get to have. Your pain in the loss is palpable. In spite of knowing that this day was an inevitability, it would be difficult for you to prepare for. You clearly were giving LFA the experience she wanted. It's my opinion that LFA ultimately was not giving Adventurer the experience he wanted (whatever that may be). As far as I can tell from posts you were never disrespectful intentionally or unintentionally. You had no way of knowing how LFA and Adventurer were processing your part in this.

Since this isn't the first time they put the brakes on, if LFA reaches out to you again and says they're "back in the game", will you jump at the chance or will you be a little reluctant. I gather from the tone of your post that you are feeling some pain from this course of events. Will those emotions you feel give you any reluctance?

Once again, I have great respect for you and your gratitude towards LFA and Adventurer. Maybe you were ultimately TOO much of a perfect fit.

You are right. I think I shoulder the blame here. In pursuit of my own sexual exploration I ended up hurting two wonderful men. I feel the weight of that.

Seekingmore12 wrote: ↑

Thu Apr 10, 2025 5:12 am

First thank you for you well wishes….reality is I am trying to process this loss as I just returned from my annual boys trip, it’s hitting home hard now as my reality has been turned around and I simply can’t go backwards.

Very early on in our relationship, I had said to lfa that this would end one day and we would never know when, how or why, who knew it turned out to be now.

This all been said, I absolutely have zero ill will for both Lfa and adventurer, I always felt welcomed and yes loved. I am very grateful that we have shared many amazing memories that will forever be with me.

These two are the poster child of what an amazing partnership is and will be forever humbled that they touched my life…..yes I am old and laughed about a old show called “ touched by a angel “, while cheesy it rings so true.

So for now, I will be focusing on my new reality and life going forward with a very special place being reserved for these two amazing people.

G

Saras_Stag wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 11, 2025 10:45 am

I took a while to respond to the news (at least here), as it took a lot to process! As Sara and I set out on this adventure we had the incredible fortune to be befriended by LFA and Adventurer. Your warmth and welcoming counsel to us during our first few months has been a source of comfort and we were so happy to make new friends within the lifestyle. Even though you're retiring from it, I hope we can remain friends as you're both great people. And G, thanks to you too - it helps when there's a great model to emulate in terms of what Sara is looking for.

It truly highlights how fraught with emotion and feeling this can be - on every side really. Stuff I would have expected would be incredibly difficult before starting are surprisingly easy; stuff I wouldn't have thought much about can be incredibly hard to process. The fact you were both able to enjoy five years is impressive, and I hope you look back on your adventure with warm smiles and hearts because you deserve that.

I'm glad that you'll be sticking around, even as you pull back from ENM. I'm glad we had the chance to get to know each other.

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Mon Apr 14, 2025 4:30 am

Thank you friend. It has been a pleasure getting to know the two of you as well, and I with you all the best as you continue this adventure. It seems like you are off to a wonderful start already.