Is Every Man a Sub?

This is a very basic guide that asks the question is every man submissive? It doesn't cover important topics such as aftercare. If FEMDOM is not your thing then you may want to pass. Ladies this will not be an overnight transformation for your man; but rather a journey that will take time to shape and form such a relationship. The journey may not end with total submission but rather some degree there of, that's love and life. A man has been trained from birth to listen and follow a woman. Ladies be sure to be loving and caring. Many relationships are based on switching whereas the power structure may flip back and forth. Hence, sometimes you could very well be on the receiving end as the submissive. So surely you want to be cared for and treated with respect. In life many times you get what you give.

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Is every man a submissive? I believe that 80-90+ percent of men are naturally submissive and are at least switches though they probably don't know it. Every man regardless of how masculine he is, and/or how much of an Alpha-Male he is; they have submissive tendencies. All men from their birth throughout their life have had a women in charge of them. Whether, we are talking about his mother, school teachers, girl friends, wife and so on.... he has had a women in charge of him. Hence, why most men are switches if not submissive's and are ready for their female counterpart to be their Mistress. This is a quick and simple training guide to help turn that selfish and controlling man into a loving affectionate partner.

In order to bring out his submissive tendencies and make this a reality you must training his mind. Training a man's mind is just as important as training his body. He probably won't do this willing or ask for this training. He will need encouragement from you to make the transition to becoming a loving and attentive mate. With your leadership, support, and encouragement you can make it a reality to become his Mistress. You can easily become the girl of his dreams and Fantasy! You will need to constantly remind him, how he's given himself to you and this relationship. He will need to be reminded how he cherishes you and has sacrificed for this relationship. In order for him to achieve this higher level of happiness, he needs to do this training to really become yours. By completing this training he will demonstrate his dedication to you and your relationship.

There are some things that are mandatory tools to train your man. These fall into the core categories. These are the items that will truly get into his psyche. This training will allow you to dominate him thus making him into a more affectionate and loving person. There are other things that you can do to push the boundaries of your control. Although these items are not necessary to complete, they can help reinforce your dominance. These tasks at the very least can bring the both of you a lot of enjoyment and pleasure. This is not to say that he can not sometimes be a top and will always be a bottom. In fact with most relationships between a heterosexual couple (men and women) there is a lot of room for switching dynamics. Thus allowing the Power Structure to be shared between the two of you. Of course at some point there will most likely be a routine established that sets in where as one partner will usually be the dominant and the other the submissive. I believe many men actually fantasize about be the pray and hunted/controlled by a seductress, AKA his Mistress.

Core categories:

* Pegging

* Humiliation

* Cum Eating

* Denial/Edging

* Punishment

Auxiliary categories:

* Watersports

* Sissifying

*Pegging*

Pegging is one of the most intimate forms of domination a man can receive. Penetrating your man's rectum (ass) encompasses many of the core values of his acceptance of you being his Mistress (FEMDOM). Pegging him demonstrates your dominance over him. It can and will be humiliating for him. Additionally there are other aspects that come forward with pegging him; there is affection, pain, and of course his submission.

Although there are many stimulating parts of pegging that your man will enjoy. It most likely will be hard for him to accept the act at first. This is where your dominance has to come out. It probably won't be comfortable for him at first, after all you have to break down all those societal norms and taboos associated with male anal penetration. If the act is done correctly and with respect he will most likely begin to crave it as a sign of your dominance. He will eventually Cum to enjoy the act (Pun intended Cum).

Additionally, after having pegged him several times you should up the game. You should use a larger dildo and force him to suck your strap-on before taking his ass. This is another way to demonstrate your dominance over him.

Below are some suggested scenarios. These scenarios often work well with bondage. Bondage creates a form of helplessness that will reinforces your control of him and the situation.

Level 1: (Gentle Force)

- Finger his ass. (Tip: Glove and lube are a must).

- Use small to medium butt plugs on him.

- Gently fuck his ass with a small dildo or plug.

Level 2: (Forceful)

- Use a medium sized dildo. (Tip: You may want to consider giving him a heads up and tell him you want him to be Fleet Clean. In other words use an enema).

- Combining pegging with verbal domination (Whose ass is this? Whose bitch are you? Do you want my girl dick in your ass, Bitch? etc...). Continue the verbal domination going forward in all aspects of his training in servitude. You should use verbal control and commands on him frequently.

- Penetrate him at fast pace and with deep thrust.

Level 3: (Submission Under Threat)

- Increase the dildo size and use a large tool on him.

- Have him on his knees and sucking your dildo before fucking him.

- Have him dress you, put your strap-on for you. Make him help you get ready to take him.

Level 4: (Full Submission)

- Have him hold his ass open on demand while you fuck him. (Further Humiliation: Show me that man pussy!).

- Tell him to get on his knees and suck your strap on; placing a condom full of his cum on the dildo making him suck it clean. This is a great way to demonstrate your total dominance of him.

- Have him masturbate while penetrating him. This is a great opportunity to use a condom to obtain semen for cum play. (Tip: Flavored condoms are probably best for all cum play).

Level 5: (Complete Domination)

- Have him ride your dildo/strap-on.

- Force him to orgasm without touching his penis just by fucking his ass, AKA: Sissygasm from P-Spot stimulation.

*Cum Eating*

On the surface your love's semen can seem like an annoyance. It's messy, and it stains linens. But actually it is a fantastic tool for training and dominating him. 
The most common way to use semen is to force him to consume it. Normally after a man ejaculates he wants to just relax and not think. He wants nothing to do with sex for a while nor does he have much of a desire to please you at this point. So having him deal with his ejaculate after an orgasm is something unnatural for him. Most likely he won't want to eat his semen. Therefore, it will require your firm command of the situation and his submission.

It may take several attempts, but once he can swallow his cum you will know that you truly have dominated your man. Here are some quick suggested scenarios. 


Level 1: (Gentle Force)

- Take A dab of his cum and make him taste it.

- Kiss him with his cum on your lips, snowball kiss him.

Level 2: (Forceful)

- Scoop cum into your hand and force it into his mouth. Have him lick semen from your palm.

Level 3: (Submission Under Threat)

- Have him lick his cum off your body, (the 3B's butt, belly, breast, legs, etc...).

- If he cums in your pussy or ass sit on his face and make him eat the creampie. After all you're a Queen and his face is your throne. 

Punish him if he doesn't obey. Make him aware you will deny him further orgasms until he complies. You may also consider paddling him for such an offense and disobedience. He needs to understand there are consequences for his insolence. That you own the pussy, the object of his joy. Hence, you have what some may call Pussy Power!

Level 4: (Full Submission)

- If he's wearing a condom, pour its contents into his mouth or save his semen and use it for other aspects of cum play. (See Tip above flavored).

- Place his legs above his head and make him cum in his own mouth.

- Put his cum in the freezer into ice cubes and then have fun (tell him he can either have it melt in his mouth or ass). In reverse roll it can also be used in Sensory Play where he cleans it up off of you or allows it to melt in your mouth for a kiss.

Level 5: (Complete Domination)

- Have him cum on your strap-on or in a condom then place the condom on your dildo. Put a small hole in the condom. Then make him suck your dildo clean.

This is a demonstration of your domination and his respect of you. He may say that he wants to do this, but once he has ejaculated most men will loss all interest in doing anything sexual. In reality he will most likely not want to do this post ejaculation. But you need to be strong and make him obey your orders and command authority. You may have to demand that he complies with your orders! As he is doing it, you should relax and enjoy the moment. But don't show weakness while he is completing this task. You have brought your man to a new level of obedience. Make this a positive event, and FROM THIS POINT FORWARD YOU MAKE HIM EAT HIS CUM.

Like other categories, this is a critical one to complete for his domination training. Eating his semen will help to train him to be more open and flexible. Cum play can be a good lead into other activities such as water sports.

*Humiliation*

All of the core activities such as pegging, oral gratification, edging/denial, etc... should include humiliation. Verbal humiliation should be incorporated into most of if not all of the core training events. It is listed as a separate category because it deserves attention. In order to properly train your man and get deep into his psyche he needs to see you as a authority figure. As you proceed through the various levels and stages of training you will open up more and more activities to expand your relationship upon. Such things as having him clean your pussy after peeing. This will ultimately open him up to water sports. You don't need to fully experiment with full out water sports but you should at least push some boundaries to fully train your man.

Level 1: (Gentle Force)

Call your man names such as (bitch, pet, sub, slave, etc...) this will set the tone of your domination and ownership.

Consider writing names on his private parts (your name, degrading words like slave, bitch, etc).

Level 2: (Forceful)

- Wearing a butt plug in public. Have him wear an anal plug for hours while running errands.

- Have your man submit ideas of punishment or sexual acts for you to perform.

Level 3: (Full Submission)

- CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) have him wear a collar and maybe a leash.

- Have him on his knees and worship you.

Level 4: (Complete Domination)

- Have him accompany you to the bathroom and lick you clean after pissing. Though it may seem gross and dirty, he will soon desire this. After all he should be going down on you regularly. Hence, this is just another opportunity for him to service his Queen. This is really a must do item!

*Denial/Edging*

A crucial part of breaking your partner is making sure they are in the game to please you. That he puts your pleasure above his own. Denial and Edging is a great way to increase his focus on you and prolong the session. There aren't recommended stages such as with some of the other core sections, but here are few ideas:

Repeatedly getting your man aroused then stop and ruin his orgasm; edging. Perhaps use ice to force him to go soft.

-Make your man bring you to orgasm. He should orally service you several times a day. He should ensure you cum several times a day before allowing him to have a release. After all it is about the women's pleasure and his pleasure should be derived by servicing you orally. 

*Punishment*

Punishment is an aspect that goes thru all the core categories like Humiliation. Here we will touch on some popular punishments that we haven't already discussed above. Combing multiple punishments is synergistic and can be highly effective.

- Wax play, drip hot wax on him while he is tied down or while pegging. (Tip: There are specially made candles for wax play).

- Clothes pins (attach them to his scrotum, nipples, and other body parts).

- Whipping, spanking, paddling, flogging & smacking such areas as his balls, cock, ass, face or any other place desired. (Tip: If hitting the genitals, and/or testicles tread lightly). You should on at least a week or bi-weekly bases place him across your knee and turn his ass red from a good spanking. It is import that he knows you're in control. That he has one purpose and that purpose is too serve and please you, his Mistress.

*Water Sports*

The act of peeing on your man can be thrilling and give you a huge sense of power because it breaks social norms. This act is humiliating and dominates him at the same time. While this is not necessary to break him. It could be a good addition and an extreme fetish for some individuals. Here are some ideas:

- start by peeing on him in the shower.

- Pee directly in his mouth while riding his face.

Make him kneel and kiss your pussy knowing you are about to pee on him or into his mouth.

*Bonus Ideas*

The male sub is to put on a dry condom and proceed to cum. Then place the cum filled condom on your dildo/strap-on. Poke a small hole in tip of the condom and proceed to face fuck him. Force him to suck and eat out all of the cum, when all the cum is sucked out. He is to remove condom and lick your girl cock clean. At this point it's a good time to lube it up and take him. Claim his man pussy for your own.

The male submissive is to participate in various training exercises during the year that include such activities as but not limited to Analingus, Cunniligus, and Creampie Eating. 

Other activities can include such items as: BDSM, role-playing, sensory-play, and etc....

Overview

Analingus:

This is the first of the oral servitude activities you should have him perform daily. If your male is will trained rimming is a great way for him to demonstrate his devotion to your pleasure. The submissive male, who is eager to please you while perhaps being denied his own sexual gratification will do what ever oral servitude you desire. Having long sessions of him licking and rimming your (clean) asshole is a worthwhile activity to add to your to your sexual life's together. Perhaps after you shower and while apply make-up or drying your hair. Have him kneel behind you, spread your buttocks with his hands, and worship your anus with his tongue while you apply your make-up in the nude, or dry your hair, etc. It's a short window but a powerfully reinforcement of his place as your servant.

Cunnilingus: 

This, of course, is his worship and devotion to your "Holy of Holies" (No pun intended). By now he loves the taste of you. Your feminine nectar drives him wild with desire. When you come home from work or the gym after a long day, have him on his back. Remove your panties and squat over his face. His senses will be overwhelmed by the musk of your pussy. Make him worship you and lick you clean. He will develop a mental conditioning to want to please you as he will have a strong desire for you. This exercise will help him learn to bring pleasure and pay homage to you, his Mistress.

Creampie Eating: 

Of course you're going to allow your submissive male to climax inside you. Because your pussy is worthy of his oral worship and attention, he should never leave his seed inside you without your permission. It should be very clear that you intend to enforce his submissiveness. That he must and will thoroughly lick you clean and swallow what he has ejaculated inside you. You can also squat over his face and allow his semen to leak from you as he licks and consumes his semen.

The above are some great ways to have a FLR, (Female Lead Relationship). But remember be loving and kind as most real relationships are based on switching and power dynamics are subject to change. There may be times that you're the submissive and he is a Dom. But I believe your man will definitely develop a greater love and desire for you if you lead him properly. It's all about leadership and in this case leadership in action!